It is time for the Truth to Come Out

For the past few weeks we’ve been relatively quiet as accusations have been hurled about and our names have been dragged through the mud by people who don’t know us, have never met us and would NEVER say the things they are saying online in person. 
Our tendency has been simply this… I have nothing to defend. 
Therefore when asked to defend ourselves we simply declined. 
Those who know us know the truth and those who do not – don’t really care about it. 
That said, because many of the details DID NOT occur online- it’s time to give Power to TRUTH… and let it do what it does. 
Leather families are complex. They can be prone to drama.
Ours has had it’s fair share. Master Obsidian started Sankofa Leather Tribe years ago to begin to bring some Leather households of like mind together in service to each other and the community as well. 
Over time one family began to become more and more antagonistic, both of other families in the Tribe and towards Leather leaders in general. For years they sowed discord in the family and were very vocal of their contempt for certain conference producers and individuals in the leather community. We would explain and defend as they were new to the leather community. (Interestingly many of those we defended are now supporting them in their malicious attacks of us…how ironic). After years of a tendency to use character assassination and hostility as a communication device we had enough and this family was removed from Sankofa Leather tribe. 
One of our basic Tenets for House Obsidian is always civility. 
And so we were civil when we would see them out and about in the lifestyle.
Recently the s-type turned Dominant of this same household won a title and began to use her platform to launch what we call “Social Justice Terrorism” – this is when a person uses their “Voice” on the platform of social media to assassinate the character of others by using incendiary language that creates knee-jerk emotional responses in order to further ideological goals.
And no, the use of the term Terrorism is not extreme…it is in fact scary in it’s accuracy.
“… terrorism mercilessly destroys social values on the pretext of protecting superior values. People, with low social status, display aggressive behaviour patterns and violent acts to earn respect, attract attention and realise themselves. At this point, radical terrorism provides a great opportunity for these unqualified people to gain glory, protect their honour and thus achieve status” (1)
If you use a term like “racist” for instance in labeling someones speech or actions – most people don’t ask in response “Is that really racist?” Because to ask this is akin to being a racism apologist – instead most people will sympathize and support because EVERYONE wants to be perceived as a “good” person… and besides no one would say it if there wasn’t SOME truth to it… right? 
This tendency is PRECISELY what SJT (Social Justice Terrorists) rely upon. They use these acts of social media violence “to earn respect, attract attention and realize themselves”. 
They rely upon the hot and fast nature of social media, they rely upon people not thinking for themselves. They rely upon a lack of temperance and questions. 
In the SJT world- the person who strikes FIRST is the victor – because any response other than “You are right” is painted with additional scorn, derision and character assassination. 
This person – screen captured a FB post that was written by slave Namaste and called her trans-phobic – while simultaneously posting information telling her audience where we would be presenting next and cautioning attendees of that conference to not attend our classes. 
Not to mention – and perhaps just as importantly: In so doing on SOCIAL MEDIA this person violated one of the most closely held and sacred tenets of this community – OUTING both Master Obsidian and slave Namaste on Facebook. 
Slave Namaste is NOT transphobic (something that when mentioned in rebuttal to what was being claimed – caused others – even transpeople who defended her- to ALSO be labeled transphobic, among other things..) 
The writing that was called transphobic can be found here, along with Namaste’s writing on the subject.
We are not in any way ashamed of our stance on these issues. As parents we feel strongly about the rights and RESPONSIBILITY of a parent to PARENT their children – and that such parenting and guidance does not END when it comes to issues of gender. 
We believe that some misguided parents misusing this authority and responsibility and harming their children does not make ALL parents suspect. 
We believe strongly that schools do NOT have the right to supersede parental authority unless the parents can be shown to be abusive. 
We believe those who say they knew they were Trans from childhood and needed parental support.
We also believe those who say that they THOUGHT they were trans and realized they were not and appreciated the parental guidance THROUGH it. 
To paint our perspective on PARENTING as TRANSPHOBIA is twisted logic and pure lies. 
To jump on board this crazy caravan because YOU don’t want to be considered transphobic is cowardice. 
That said, that was not the end. 
Master Obsidian is on the board of Butchmanns. 
Butchmann’s owns the SWLC and engages the executive director and by extension all the support teams and volunteers etc., to put on the SWLC conference. 
The board recently informed the committee that based upon the negative behavior in the community of the scheduled Emcee  that the board believed that it was not in the best interest of the SWLC conference to contribute negative energy to the conference by providing her a microphone and a platform.
The Committee put in place to run SWLC did NOT want this person removed. They REFUSED categorically to remove the emcee. They then issued the board an Ultimatum… she stays or fire us. 
Now, it should be said that the board OWNS SWLC – the committee serves at the pleasure of the Board of Directors and has no right whatsoever to hire or fire an emcee without the Boards consent. 
Butchmanns decided that this person should not be the Emcee at SWLC because this is not the first time she has used her platform to cause division in the community – and given her reputation for the same, it was decided that energy was NOT welcome and would not be given a platform (or a microphone) representing the SWLC or Butchmann’s Inc. 
After a long discussion between the board chair and the committee – during which the board chair was informed that the committee had planned to engage this Emcee anyway – with or without Board approval – and if the board did not agree to their demands, then the board was free to fire the committee. (This actually goes without saying because the committee serves at the pleasure of the Board, not the other way round – so in essence the committee actually fired themselves due to insubordination) 
Unfortunately as all of this is taking place – someone comes forward accusing a well known ritual facilitator and leader of a group of misconduct and consent violations from 2 years ago. Following this others come forward with other accusations going as far back as 12 years. 
The committee wanted to ban this person from the SWLC conference – even though this person apparently had no plans to attend SWLC. 
In some weird way…the Committee begins to conflate these things in their re-telling- saying that the Board removed them because they wanted to ban an abuser. 
This is categorically NOT TRUE. 
To add weight to their story the committee keeps saying “Well are all of us lying?” 
To this I would say YES… they are. 
Proverbs 6:16-19
16These six things doth the LORD hate: yea, seven are an abomination unto him:
17A proud look, a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood,
18An heart that deviseth wicked imaginations, feet that be swift in running to mischief,
19A false witness that speaketh lies, and he that soweth discord among brethren.


Bruce Hoffman, Inside Terrorism, Colombia University Press, New York 2006.

6 Replies to “It is time for the Truth to Come Out”

  1. Sir
    I am disheartened by social media dictators, ruining the reputation of leaders and events. I thank you for your powerful writings. You have affirmed once again, for me that the Leather Community has leaders. Your openness and honesty are to be commended.

  2. Oh my God!!! Yes, yes, and amen!!!! Your eloquence in describing and dissecting these atrocities that are occuring and threatening to destroy the true meaning of Leather, is phenomenal!!!

  3. Dear, dear, Master Obsidian and slave namasté-
    Reading this broke my heart…
    I am sad, angry, shocked, disappointed, and dismayed, by the suffering others have caused you both.
    I missed seeing you at MsC; I was looking forward to it, and to the yummy hugs that you are both so good at!
    All the negativity going on is appalling. That it could be directed at two people who live with integrity, sincerity, generosity, compassion, and love, is something I just don’t understand. I’m sorry you are going through this.
    When I read your post, slave namasté, on parenting children who may be trans, I felt no transphobia at all. I heard your voice of reason considering all angles, and being thoughtful, responsible, and caring. I heard a conscious, experienced, loving, and mindful parent, doing the best thing possible for their child.
    The way things on social media have been twisted, mangled, poisoned, blown out of proportion, and used against others in hateful, destructive ways, lately, is simply unconscionable. I can only surmise these attacks come from a damaged and troubled soul. Still, I’m struggling to find compassion when it hurts someone as kind as the two of you.
    What you wrote was helpful to me. I wish there was a way I could help you in return. You are both in my thoughts, my heart, and my prayers.
    Always, in Leather,
    Mistress Susan

  4. I am so glad I found this writing. I now understand the more than several moving parts that finally fit together. Much, much respect to you both. And yes, I can now see the correct decisions were made, as much as I am saddened by the necessity.

    Oh, and I am just someone you crossed paths with years ago but really don’t know personally.

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